Tampa Bukkake Tips and Advice

Party Tips and Advice
Reading these tips and advice will help you to know what to expect when attending a swinger lifestyle party. These articles are from experienced members of the Tampa Bukkake Crew. A special thanks to Phoenixxx Blaque for much of the information below.
Please also read our Frequently Asked Questions for more information.

Party Etiquette

Atmosphere. If the party happens to be in a public place (like a hotel) refrain from loitering outside the room, as it could raise suspicion from the management. You may go outside briefly (to go to your car or smoke a cigarette) and then come back in. If it happens to be held at someone's residence, respect the host and his/her home. Treat it as if it were your own! Throw all trash and debris away, and if you must go somewhere private in the home (like a bedroom) ask first, so your host will know that room will be used. Keep the noise down, loud discussions and laughter can spoil the atmosphere for sex!
Expectations. It always amazes me how much people expect without any contribution. What I mean by contribution is the door donation and social interaction. We ask for a donation at the door to help pay for expenses. We also expect that you will be social at the party. Wallflowers do not add anything to the enjoyment of a party and create a boring atmosphere. Sitting back and waiting for others to play, then joining in is fine, but what if everyone did that? Ladies should never feel like they must play with everyone. Sex is a byproduct of party people that feel comfortable with and connected to other guests. The party is only as good as the attendees!
Hygiene is ultra important! This can and will cost you future invites, if ignored... An unwashed, smelly, sweaty body is foul to both sexes. Bathe properly and pay attention to genital areas! If you keep yourself shaved, it is a good idea to shave smooth before the party, as day old stubble can scratch (this is also true for guys and their faces... If you do oral on a lady, shave before the party - no one likes stubble) Dress nicely, as if you were going on a date, wear some aftershave or perfume, the opposite sex is always more attracted to a well groomed person...
Party sober. Any chemical vice you partake of is going to hamper the fun you have (by affecting your performance). Having a couple of beers is fine to loosen up, but getting drunk always leads to problems. ABSOLUTELY NO DRUGS!!! Save that kind of partying for after the party to avoid any liability to the party hosts and other guests. Speaking from experience, people who approached me on drugs and wanted to play, were a pain in the ass. I avoided them out of disgust and they didn't get an invite back, on the basis of stupidity.
Attitude is everything. If you have an aggressive nature, leave it at home. The parties are always a no pressure atmosphere. Act like a rabid dog in heat and you will quickly get thrown out. Relax. Take it easy and have fun. The ladies appreciate and like patient, pressure-free men. Remember, no means no (the first time). Most parties are social events also, so don't be a wallflower, you will have the chance to talk with cool and interesting people (and have sex!). Make the most of it and keep it fun, you will enjoy yourself more!
Don't show up empty handed. Bring your own condoms and beverages... Do not expect your host to do so unless specified. Make sure the condoms are durable (like Trojans...Lifestyle and Durex condoms BREAK!). Bring lube and baby-wipes for easy clean-up. Throw your used condoms in the trash.
Respect the personal property of others. When playing in a home, be aware of the furniture! Breaking beds, leaving condoms laying around, wearing high-heeled shoes on furniture, or encouraging a squirter on a fabric chair or bed that others must use - these are all examples of BAD party etiquette... Remember, the host is the one who has to live in the premise after the party is over. Show appreciation and respect, your donation does not cover cleanup and replacement of broken items...
Have FUN and keep it FUN!

What to bring to a party

Ladies
I recommend getting a gym bag to carry everything in... It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, just able to carry stuff from point A to point B....in it, I recommend the following..

1) A change of clothes for after the party. Loose casual stuff is best.
2) Baby-wipes or paper towels, hair scrunchy (for ladies with long hair!) Plus any bathroom clean-up items like soap, shampoo, towel, and so forth...
3) Condoms (good ones, not cheap ones that will BREAK!!) and lube (Very important!!! Stock up on more then one bottle, as one always seems to disappear just when you need it). I recommend AstroGlide, but NO OIL BASED LUBE! They can lead to infection!
4) Plenty of fluids like Gatorade or water. (those two are best to prevent overheating)

Gentlemen:
1) Baby-wipes or a wash cloth (to clean up before and after)
2) Beverages (alcohol may impede your performance!)
3) Condoms (good ones like Trojan, not cheap ones that will break!!!) and lube. I recommend Astro-Glide, but NO OIL BASED LUBE! They can lead to infection!

Contacting other swingers online

1) Regarding Instant Messages and Email...when contacting someone online for the first time, don't be aggressive right off the bat... Don't start off your letter or message with "I want to f*** your p**** and have you s*** me while I shove my finger up your a** and my c*** is this long"! First of all, you don't know the person well enough to talk like that and most who take that approach either get the IGNORE button or their letter is clicked to the trash immediately! Be a gentleman and use common sense. Introduce yourself, describe yourself, ask polite questions, and see where it leads... You wouldn't walk up to a woman on the street and talk trash, so don't do it online.

2) Photos help garner a response from others, but one common mistake a lot of men make is just sending shots of their manhood...BO-RING! It doesn't give the lady a correct idea of what you look like... If you want to protect your privacy, take a body shot with your face blanked out or wear sunglasses or a hat. Just don't send a penis pose, women get them all the time and its not as impressive as you think! We want to see as much of you as possible, even if you are fully clothed... This also applies to women, show more then a body part and you will get a better response from others.

3) Privacy and discretion is VERY IMPORTANT and should be respected by all. To keep your email discreet, establish a free anonymous mail address (like Yahoo or Hotmail). Don't give away any personal info. If you attend a sexual party and you learn someone's online handle or real name, DON'T SHARE IT ONLINE WITH OTHERS!!!! THIS IS A SERIOUS BREACH OF TRUST AND RESPECT THAT COULD LEAD TO PROBLEMS!!! Ask permission about posting whatever info you want first... Most like to be discreet and don't want to be barraged by tons of unwanted mail and instant msgs from strangers.

Respect and common sense should be easy folks.... Don't do anything that could endanger the privacy of others, or cause them unnecessary grief... We all want to party, but we want to feel safe doing it. A privacy breach could have a million unwanted consequences.

How to care for your sex toys

Do some comparative shopping! Toys can be very expensive. Compare online stores with local shops, just keep in mind the shipping and handling for online purchases.
Storage.... Where will you put them between uses? The more you have, the more space you will need. Especially if you have different types (I will explain that in a moment). You can use a drawer, a gym bag, an old trunk, a box or something you can keep out of the way from kids...
DO NOT STORE DIFFERENT COLORS TOGETHER! They will bleed on each other. Keep all colors separated. Even if you take two different ones on a short trip to a party, wrap them in a towel or plastic to protect against color bleed...
Vibrators wear out faster if you use expensive batteries. Use the cheapest regular batteries for longer toy life.
Jelly toys look cool, but BEWARE...sometimes the material will irritate vaginal or anal tissue making it burn like fire! When washing jellies, use only very mild soap, as jellies soak up whatever they come in contact with! DON'T CLEAN WITH ALCOHOL! It can cause severe irritation and reduce flexibility in rubber/latex.
NEVER put anything oil-based inside a pussy. The pussy cant wash the oil out and the oil will cause infection. Check the labels of what you buy, some lubes even put a spermicide in with lube. This can irritate both females and males. I recommend a water-based lube like WET or Astroglide. You can purchase Astroglide at drugstores in the condom section much cheaper than at an adult bookstore or sex shop.
Don't share your toys with any one you don't know or hasn't been tested. After each use, wash thoroughly, dry and put away..

Shaving Tips
From Phoenixxx Blaque - she has been shaved perfectly smooth for years!

This applies to those who are both partially and fully shaved... To keep it looking smooth and free of red bumps, be diligent about shaving everyday! Day old stubble isn't sexy and scratches during sex or oral. Shaving daily helps your body to stay used to to hair being removed. I recommend a good men's razor (they shave closer) like the ones with removable blades (like MACH 3). Shaving cream is better then soap too, as soap becomes slippery and the blade wont pick up the hair. Do not shave directly before sex, as this is what causes the red bumps... When you shave, you open up pores and friction will cause the redness! Wait an hour before sex or an activity that has to do with touching the area (this also holds true to exotic dancers who do lap dancing). After you shave, apply an ointment like Neosporin to the area to help seal the pores against infection and irritation. If you don't have Neosporin, here is an old dancer trick....apply stick antiperspirant...thats right...it works...and you wont get those red bumps.

Sex during your period

This is a sensitive subject...what to do if you want to have sex but its that time of the month and you don't want to make a mess. I am going to share a secret I was told by other porn actresses who were faced with that dilemma when filming. Go to a crafts store, pick up a mass of sea sponge (home depot carries them... People use them a lot for painting), break off a medium sized portion, boil to sterilize and soften, then drain away excess water and insert. Viola! No mess! Don't worry, you will be able to get it out later... Sponges are very absorbent and will soak up mass amounts of liquid. When the sex is over, just remove and throw away.

Sex in Adult Theaters

Many people are attracted to the idea of extending their playtime to a adult theatre setting. The prospect of anonymous sex is a fantasy for both sexes. I strongly advise against ANY female going alone into a theatre, especially late at night to play (it is like tossing a rabbit to a den of hungry wolves!). Always go with an escort of some kind (contact the Tampa Bukkake Crew)! That way while you play, someone can keep a lookout for you and keep the overly aggressive men at bay. Men, if you bring your wives or female friends, it is important that you stay alert at all times while the female is playing. Be her security guard! If someone gets out of line, reprimand them immediately and make them back off. Before playing in a theatre setting, investigate as many as possible to see which one suits your standards...is the theatre clean? nice seating? couple friendly? What kinds of people do you encounter there? The investigating will be well worth it later when you play. For the ladies who play, please keep in mind that at all times YOU are in control! Do not afraid to assert yourself. If someone approaches you or touches you in a way you don't want, tell them so! It is your body and you shouldn't have to tolerate any un-pleasantries for the sake of wanting fun. Don't be afraid to voice the rules of the game upfront if approached by anyone... It actually helps them to know what is allowed and what isn't and saves you from having to become offended.

For the men who play: If you happen to be in a theatre at a time that a couple enters and starts to play, be courteous and aware that playing with a couple is a privilege, not a right! Be a gentleman and polite. Use a no pressure approach. Slow and easy, ask before you touch what isn't yours. Use protection with anyone you meet and refrain from playing with those that don't use protection (the hand for a minute is better then AIDS the rest of your life). If others around the lady start to get pushy or aggressive, speak in her defense! Once the play is over, Thank the couple for allowing you to play... This will encourage them to come back (or get your number for private play elsewhere).

Phoenixxx's guidelines on Theater play - What I did and how it worked!

I used to go to theatres and this is how it was... I would go in with my boyfriend, we would find a seat in the dark theater and then he would get up to go buy a coke. By the time he got back, I would be surrounded by men! I would then politely tell the men what was allowed. Have them line up, and if they didn't have protection, to go get it, or else no play. One by one everyone was satisfied... If someone got pushy, I would tell them to get in the back of the line as punishment and cool off. If someone was satisfied and wanted to go for round 2, they would have to get in line again, that way at least everyone got one chance, and no one was allowed to hog all the action for long periods of time. If I encountered a fellow that I could physically tell was not going to be able to finish, I would ask that fellow after 10 minutes to take a break and start on someone else. That way it kept the flow going and his ego wouldn't be bruised by his lack of performance... It saved face! I used the number of men around me as security, they would back me up if someone got rude! By the way, if the lady you are playing with is doing oral on you, a flavored condom is always a huge plus...and NEVER put on a condom that is coated in spermicide for her to do oral play (tastes AWFUL and it makes your mouth numb)! Condoms with special tips aren't too great either (almost trigger your gag reflex). Cumming in a ladies hair is pretty rude (unless she says it's ok, don't do it) Drunks, people on drugs, or those that I could tell were unwashed were those in the theatre that I avoided, so keep that in mind. Being clean and sober is essential. Theatres are always busiest at late hours, especially on the weekends. If you don't want the potential of a feeding frenzy, or just want too ease into things slowly, go during the day or early night during the week. Things to take inside the theatre: hair scrunchy, condoms, a wet rag in a plastic bag (clean-up), lube and baby wipes for clean up!